Own Your Fear – Part 5

In Own Your Fear – Part 4 we looked at taking responsibility for our own lives. The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 5 we are looking at working with positive thoughts and positive energy to overcome our fears. There are many things that we can do, such as working with audiotapes and CD’s, apps for our phones, reading positive books that inspire and motivate us, placing positive quotes where we can see them (Google is a great place to find all kinds of positive quotes!), and working with positive affirmations.

The key is to work with material that appeals to you, and to work with it on a consistent (daily) basis. You don’t have to spend a lot of time with this, but setting aside even ten or fifteen minutes a day (at the same time each day, if possible) will help you to see results quickly.

August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

Reproduction prohibited without written permission of the author.

Surviving Change

We are in a time of major change. Because of the coronavirus many people are out of work, many people are working from home that normally would not be, we are experiencing a level of death that we had not expected, and we feel out of control. How can we keep ourselves grounded and centered during this time, and what can we expect our future to be?

Here are some of the things we can do to make it through this time:

  • We can acknowledge our feelings, and our fears.
  • We can be willing to talk about what is going on.
  • We can actively listen to what those around us are saying.
  • We can expand our perception of what life is.
  • We can re-prioritize our needs and our goals.
  • We can offer help to others.
  • We can ask for help when we need it.
  • We can limit our time with toxic people/situations.
  • We can give thanks for that which we have on a daily basis.
  • Consciously live in the present.

What tools can we use to cope:

  • Write our thoughts out in a journal.
  • Take a walk (keeping a good social distance from others).
  • Do a breathing meditation.
  • Listen to music.
  • Get up and dance.

What challanges can we expect in our near future?

  • Our entire health care system will have to be re-evaluated.
  • One-time stimulus payments will offer some financial help.
  • People will re-evaluate which expenditures are important, and which after not. Things like new cars and new clothes will be much further down on the list.
  • People will be making more of an effort to set aside 3-6 months’ worth of money to cover bills.
  • There will be an effort to stock essential foods for at least 60 days.
  • Many people who lost their jobs will be looking for jobs.
  • We will be looking at the November elections in terms of how the current crisis was handled, and what we found out about our government.

This is not a time to be afraid. It is a time to move forward with confidence into a future that is unlike one that we have ever known.

Meditation and Wellness

I have been meditating since I was in my early twenties, discovering many different ways to meditate along the way. Meditation is an amazing tool of empowerment, helping us to focus, to relieve stress and anxiey, and to achieve an overall sense of well-being. We can also use it to help with physical issues such as pain and high blood pressure.

Meditation calms the mind by drawing our attention inward. There are many types of meditation – guided meditation, walking meditation, breathing meditation, and meditation with the use of sound, to name a few.

What has worked for me is to set aside time to meditate on a consistent basis – when I get up in the morning, and before I go to bed at night. The amount of time spent meditating varies, but doing it consistently does not.

I recently had the please of reviewing “”Mindfulness Meditations for Anxiety”, by Michael Smith, PhD., Althea Press, 2019. My review can be found here https://bonniecehovet.wordpress.com/2019/09/10/review-mindfulness-meditations-for-anxiety/.

Cutting The Cords

Cleansing Prayer

I am now choosing to cleanse

myself and release any

and all thought forms,

beings, situations and energies that

are no longer of service

to my highest and greatest good …

across al planes of

my existence, across all

universes, and across all lifetimes.

I ask that all energies that

are less than love

be transmuted for the highest good of all.

Blessed Be, So Mote It Be

~ Anonymous ~

Finding Peace

“We are all on a journey to mastering our inner peace.” ~ Raheem DeVaughn

Mastering our inner peace is not an easy thing. It is also not something that we do, and then move on. It is a never ending process. I have certainly come to realize that these past few weeks.

I have had a strong Internet presence for a long time now, as have most of my friends. Speaking for myself, this works well. I have met many intelligent, creative, gracious people online. As with all things, friendships evolve. In some cases, they devolve.

I have had to unfriend some people, and block others recently. This is Internet speak for standing back, for creating a safe distance between myself and those that are becoming toxic to me. We all have our own way of perceiving the world around us, and expressing our opinion(s) about it. This can be done in a gracious, civil manner, or it can be all out war. I try to avoid the “all out war” scenario whenever possible.

Like many others, I am not looking forward to our next election. On a day to day basis, I am appalled at how this country is conducting itself. I am trying to sit on my hands, and not respond to the political rhetoric that I am seeing.

May we all have the strength to find our inner peace.

Clearing Out Books

“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” 
~ Nora Ephron

I recently started going through one of my boxes of books – to sort what I wanted to keep, and what I wanted to gift away. The third book that I picked up (and that was as far as I got) was “Gong Hee For Choy – Book of Fortune”, by Margarete Ward. It was initially published in 1948 (the year of my birth!), and reissued in 2009.

It is a book of fortune telling, based on the energy of regular playing cards. The twos through sixes and the joker are removed from the deck. leaving 32 cards. To read the cards, the individual shuffles the cards while making a wish. (I would advise suffling the cards while focusing on the individual/issue/situation that needs clarity.) The cards are not cut, as this interferes with the continuity of energy in the reading. The cards are then laid out, face up, on the game board.

Houses (categories) on the board include Compass, Wishes, Success, Journey, Papers, Marriage, Messages, Health, Trouble, Disappointment, Gratitude, and Luck. Whatever you need insight on, this system can be used to help you obtain.

I am very much looking forward to doing a reading for myself using this system. I am a Tarot reader by profession, so I will use one of my Tarot decks, take out the aforementioned cards from each of the suits (which are comparable to regular reading cards), and have some fun!

I see this system, the Tarot, and other divination systems as tools that we can use to become self-empowered. They are definitely a part of my wellness journey!

Mind/Body Breathing

What we call ’I’ is just a swinging door, which moves when we inhale and when we exhale. ~ Shunryu Suzuki

I have mentioned that I am reviewing the book “breathwork”, by Valerie Moselle. I am just starting to get into it, as I finish reading an English tranlation of a Japanese locked room style mystery. (Which, by the way, is an excellent read!) This book combines breathwork with yoga, with each day building on the previous work that has been done. (This is a three week program.)

I have just finished the Introduction and Part One. Here Moselle is explaining the physical mechanics of breath, and how breath awareness helps us to bring a better quality to our overall life. Not just being able to do more things, but having better clarity, better focus, sleeping better, and being better able to control any pain that we might have. (From personal experience, I can also say that conscious breathing helped me to lower my blood pressure.)

Moselle also has a chapter that she calls “foundation”, where she discusses setting a time for breathing practice (morning and evening), and keeping a journal covering how your body feels, and what emotions come up during the practice of breathing.

In another week I will be ready to start the daily breathing practice. I will be doing it seated in a chair, rather than seated on a folded towel (as the book suggests) because of a bad hip. I will do what I can do, and am certainly looking forward to it!

Daily Rituals

Rituals are how we step into our private field of dreams, a small Elysium all our own. Rituals are not made just for us, but for those we want to pass them on to. ~ Andre Aciman

My daily rituals vary, depending on what I need. They ground and center my day, they bring me peace, and they allow me to nourish my life, and to grow as an individual. Your daily rituals will vary, depending on what you need, and what you consider important.

These are my current rituals:

  • Take my daily suppliments first thing in the morming.
  • Take and record my blood pressure.
  • Recite the Cleansing Prayer.
  • Post blessings to each of my social media sites to all who are reading the posts.
  • Spend a few minutes on an Internet program from United Health Care that keeps my mind active.
  • Post inspiring words from the Dalai Lama, Eckhart Tolle, and Thich Nhat Hanh on Facebook.
  • Read my e-mail.
  • Fill the bird feeders on my patio, and rinse and refill the outside water dish for my cats.
  • Spend a few minutes doing stretching and other exercises.

It doesn’t take long to develop a daily ritual, and it can be changed as needed. It is meant to be supportive of who we are, on all levels.

Little Things Matter

“It has long been an axiom of mine that the little things are infinitely the most important.” ~ Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

It is always the little things – sometimes they bring us down, sometimes they build us up. This is one reason to stay focused on the present – so that we are aware of the little things,and they don’t “sneak up on us”.

I am enjoying my finished patio. It took some time to get it done (I had my landscapers do it!), but it is now a serene area where I can watch the birds at the feeders, and spend some quality down time.

I have a book that I am reviewing that I absolutely love, and that I will be able to use as a resource for many years to come. I know that this book will help many people, and I am pleased to see that it crossed my path.

I did a little bit of research, and found a company that makes cleaning products that are eco friendly. I didn’t think that I would have to be doing that search so soon, but the wellness company just did not work out for me. I will have cleaning products that are environmentally safe, just not where I thought they would be coming from.

I am still working to balance my diet so that my stomach stays stable. (I am dealing with IBS). I had a few bad days, and now things are better. I can take my morning suppliments and not have an upset stomach.

Each of these things are little things, but they all add up to quality of life. I am enjoying life, and I hope that you are too!

(c) June 2019 Bonnie Cehovet

Reproduction prohibited without written permission of the author.

Ultimate Decisions

“you must be careful never to allow doubt to paralyze you. always take the decisions you need to take, even if you’re not sure you’re doing the right thing. You’ll never go wrong if, when you make a decision, you keep in mind an old German proverb: ‘The devil is in the detail.’ Remember that proverb and you’ll always be able to turn a wrong decision into a right one.” 
~ Paulo Coelho

If you follow this blog, you know that I recently made the decision to join a wellness company. I researched the company, I joined, I ordered their products, and I liked their products. I placed an order the second month (orders need to be placed each month), and I received the order. I liked the order.

Then I researched how to leave the company. There were things that just did not sit right with me. I think that my lesson here was that this had not worked for me with other companies in the past, and it wasn’t working for me now. It wasn’t the company per se, it was that the whole format, the whole process, was not something that I was comfortable with.

I am proud that I made the decision to join, and I am proud that I made the decision to leave. Where we get in trouble is when we fail to make the initial decision. Then we are stagnant in life. If our decisions turn out not to be the best for us, when can make another decision and take our lives in another direction.

Life is good!