Own Your Fear – Part 11

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 11, we are looking at what Jeffers refers to as the “inner void”. That feeling that we have at times of being empty or lonely – that is an indication that we are off course, that we are not connecting with our Higher Self. Once we connect with our Higher Self we allow the good feelings to flow again. Our Higher Self is a source of positive thoughts and positive energy.

What Jeffers refers to as the “Chatterbox” is that voice within us that is a source of negative thoughts and negative energy. Our conscious mind decides whether we want to listen to our Higher Self or to our Chatterbox. This is the information that then goes to our subsoncsious mind. Which source we listen to is our choice. This is where positive thoughts and affirmations come in.

This is the final installment for this discussion. My wish is that whoever reads it takes something away that will help them align with their higher self, and live the life that they envision.

If you are interested in purchasing Jeffers book you can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Feel-Fear-Anyway-Indecision-Confidence/dp/B011T7KWO6/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2Z48ZU08PVJNL&dchild=1&keywords=feel+the+fear+and+do+it+anyway+susan+jeffers&qid=1631869706&sr=8-2

(c) September 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 10

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear Part 10 we are looking at learning to give consciously and freely. We will find that when we give from a place of love,rather than a place of expectation, that wonderful things come back to us. When we hold on to expectations, and they are not met, we experience fear and disappointment.

One of the exercises that Jeffers gives in this chapter is that of listing the things that we are thankful for about the people in our lives, and then thanking them for that. This is something that can be very hard to do, but is very freeing. Jeffers suggests that if you cannot meet in person withthe people that you want to thank,that you simply thank themin your mind.

For me,the basis of this chapter was to be the person that you wanted to attract into your life. That our life is abundant, and that we count.

(c) September 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 8

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 8 we will be looking at what Jeffers terms a “whole life”. When we experience a whole life, we include the many facets that make us who we are, and release focusing on any on person or life area. For instance, a whole life may include work, friends, family, relationships, hobbies, personal growth, alone time, leisure, and community involvement of some form (such as volunteering). This gives us balance, and allows us to grow as individuals.

Living a whole life allows us to follow our passions, and gives us something to hold on to when we are experiencing difficulties with one or more life areas. In essence, we are committing to each aera of our life, and not to just one area. When we focus on each aea in turn, we give it 100%.

What does your whole life map include?

(c) September 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 6

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 6 we are looking at situations where people around us are not supporting our growth. They are not comfortable seeing us change, becuase they will have to grow with us, to learn to interact with us in different ways. This can happen with anyone – family, friends, co-workers. Some people in your life perhaps have never supported you – these are people that you can distance yourself from, or completely let go. For the people that have generally been supporitve of you, give them a chance to grow with you.

You will also be attracting new people to you, as you raise your own energy and clear your life of negativity. Surround yourself with people that are supportive of you, and that you feel comfortable being supportive of. Look for people that are on your same path, but that may be a bit ahead of you. They will have something to teach you.

Where are you on your journey?

(c) August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 5

In Own Your Fear – Part 4 we looked at taking responsibility for our own lives. The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 5 we are looking at working with positive thoughts and positive energy to overcome our fears. There are many things that we can do, such as working with audiotapes and CD’s, apps for our phones, reading positive books that inspire and motivate us, placing positive quotes where we can see them (Google is a great place to find all kinds of positive quotes!), and working with positive affirmations.

The key is to work with material that appeals to you, and to work with it on a consistent (daily) basis. You don’t have to spend a lot of time with this, but setting aside even ten or fifteen minutes a day (at the same time each day, if possible) will help you to see results quickly.

August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 4


In Own Your Fear – Part 3 we looked at how we move past the pain of fear into feeling the power of dealing with our fears. The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 4 we will look at taking responsibility for our own lives. We cannot change other people, but we can change ourselves. We are only the victim if we assign this role to ourselves. Victims have no power in their own lives. We all have choices, and we can choose not to be a victim. As we choose to not blame others, we need to choose not to blame ourselves. On another note, we need to learn how to handle our internal voice, that voice inour head that always, always has something to say!

Does being a victim have an upside? Well, in a way. We create a little safe place in life that we choose not to venture out of. However, when we take responsibility for our life we open ourselves up to looking at what we want in life, and what we need to do to get it. When we open ourselves up like this we begin to see that in any given situation we have a multitude of choices. If one choice doesn’t work well for us, we can reconsider and make another choice. Nothing is written in stone.

At the end of each chapter Jeffers has included exercises that allow the reader to put the information in that chapter to work in their life. There are ways for us to take control and become whatever we want to be!

(c) August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 1

We all face fear in our lives – it is how we handle it that determines if it rules us or not. I recently had the book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”, by Susan Jeffers, come to my attention. This is not meant to be a book review, it is meant to be the first part of a multi-part discussion of fear in our lives. The book was originally published in 1987 by Century. The book that I have is a revised and updated edition published in 2012 by Vermillion, an imprint of Ebury Publishing (a Random House Group company).

The whole point of this book is that fear does not need to hold us back from living a rich and beautiful life. It is a book that offers tools for dealing with whatever fears we have. In her introduction Jeffers talks about the types of fears we experience, including the fear of letting go of things that are not working for us. She makes a very important statement in that she does not see fear as a psychological issue, but as an educational issue. When we educate ourselves, we allow ourselves to face our fears, and work through them. Fear does ot have to be an obstacle in our lives.

Jeffers begins by asking the reader what they are afraid of, and why. Amongst other fears I think that there are two that are universal – fear of failure, and fear of success. Jeffers breaks fears down into three levels:

  • Level 1 – Those that “happen”, such as aging, and those that require action, such as making decisions.
  • Level 2 – Success, failure, rejection, helplessness, loss of image.
  • Level 3 – I can’t handle it!

Now that we have somewhat of an idea what fears are, Part 2 will be taking a look at why we can’t make fear go away. You might want to sit down and make a list of your fears, as the first step in dealing with them.

(c) June 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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