Meditation and Wellness

I have been meditating since I was in my early twenties, discovering many different ways to meditate along the way. Meditation is an amazing tool of empowerment, helping us to focus, to relieve stress and anxiey, and to achieve an overall sense of well-being. We can also use it to help with physical issues such as pain and high blood pressure.

Meditation calms the mind by drawing our attention inward. There are many types of meditation – guided meditation, walking meditation, breathing meditation, and meditation with the use of sound, to name a few.

What has worked for me is to set aside time to meditate on a consistent basis – when I get up in the morning, and before I go to bed at night. The amount of time spent meditating varies, but doing it consistently does not.

I recently had the please of reviewing “”Mindfulness Meditations for Anxiety”, by Michael Smith, PhD., Althea Press, 2019. My review can be found here

Cutting The Cords

Cleansing Prayer

I am now choosing to cleanse

myself and release any

and all thought forms,

beings, situations and energies that

are no longer of service

to my highest and greatest good …

across al planes of

my existence, across all

universes, and across all lifetimes.

I ask that all energies that

are less than love

be transmuted for the highest good of all.

Blessed Be, So Mote It Be

~ Anonymous ~

The Wisdom Of Putting Self FIrst

We often think we are doing what is best for everyone, but what we are doing is taking care of everyone but ourselves. I am very happy in that I can work from home, and basically choose my own schedule. I work for a phone line, and we are up 24/7. There was an issue with having adequate coverage for the oh dark thirty hours, so I decided to work a split shift – 2 am – 6 am, and 2 pm – 6 pm. I thought that in this way I could help the line out a bit, and still make the money that I needed for my bills. I made the money, but was getting very tired (even with taking a nap between shifts), and not getting much writing done.

So I made the decision to let other people cover the oh dark thirty hours (when there are not that many calls), and to work 8 am to 4 pm. Today was the first day that I tried that, and it is working out well! I am not tired, and I got a great deal acomplished. As a bonus, I got my stepper moved from the bedroom to the living room, where I will be more apt to use it.

It is not selfish to put ourselves first. IMHO, this is self-care. When we are doing well, our energy level is higher, and we have more to offer other people. When we focus on ourselves, and our goals, we accomplish more, and have a more positive frame of mind. We learn when to say no, and when to reach out and help.

When we put oursleves first, we become truly authentic people.

Finding Peace

“We are all on a journey to mastering our inner peace.” ~ Raheem DeVaughn

Mastering our inner peace is not an easy thing. It is also not something that we do, and then move on. It is a never ending process. I have certainly come to realize that these past few weeks.

I have had a strong Internet presence for a long time now, as have most of my friends. Speaking for myself, this works well. I have met many intelligent, creative, gracious people online. As with all things, friendships evolve. In some cases, they devolve.

I have had to unfriend some people, and block others recently. This is Internet speak for standing back, for creating a safe distance between myself and those that are becoming toxic to me. We all have our own way of perceiving the world around us, and expressing our opinion(s) about it. This can be done in a gracious, civil manner, or it can be all out war. I try to avoid the “all out war” scenario whenever possible.

Like many others, I am not looking forward to our next election. On a day to day basis, I am appalled at how this country is conducting itself. I am trying to sit on my hands, and not respond to the political rhetoric that I am seeing.

May we all have the strength to find our inner peace.


The Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;  

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,  

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.  

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Robert Frost

This is one of my favorite poems from my very early years. In my life I have also tended to take the road less traveled. It is interesting, and scary. I made a decision recently that is taking me in a different, perhaps more focused direction. I have been trying to write a book on decision making for the past couple of years. I had a lovely outline, and was several chapters into it.

I kept going back, changing things, trying to define what is missing. I had lots of research invested into it, and plenty of hard core logic within my chapters. And … it was boring as all get out! I truly wanted to help people define how to make the best decisions in their lives, and I was getting lost in the process.

My “Aha!” moment was when I realized that instead of the process of decision making, I should focus on the process of making choices. To me this broadened the playing field, and made the book much more interesting. Decisions are conclusions that we come to after research and deliberation. While making choices does involve a level of decision making, to me it shows more heart, more caring.

Choices are my road less traveled.

That Which Crosses Our Path

“You never know what’s around the corner. It could be everything. Or it could be nothing. You keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you look back and you’ve climbed a mountain.” ~ Tom Hiddleston

Life is interesting in the things that it puts in our path. Recently I attended two webinars, one by an Internet marketer that I follow, and one that was new to me. I was interested in what both had to offer, but I chose to not take up either offer. The reason I did this was not strictly monetary – when I thought about it I realized that I had the tools to deal with what they were teaching, so I was best served by using what I those tools.

I am involved in the Amazon Vine review program. I recently had the opportunity to review the book “breathwork – A 3-Week Breathing Program” by Valerie Moselle. I am not only going to review the book, but I am going to actively work with the program, which involves breathing exercises combined with yoga moves. This is something that I feel will affect my life in a positive way, on all levels.

We need to pay attention to the opportunities that spirit places in our path, to evaluate them, and to act on the ones that will benefit us the most. In doing this, we easily and smoothly move our life in the direction that we want it to go in.

(c) July 2019 Bonnie Cehovet

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Daily Rituals

Rituals are how we step into our private field of dreams, a small Elysium all our own. Rituals are not made just for us, but for those we want to pass them on to. ~ Andre Aciman

My daily rituals vary, depending on what I need. They ground and center my day, they bring me peace, and they allow me to nourish my life, and to grow as an individual. Your daily rituals will vary, depending on what you need, and what you consider important.

These are my current rituals:

  • Take my daily suppliments first thing in the morming.
  • Take and record my blood pressure.
  • Recite the Cleansing Prayer.
  • Post blessings to each of my social media sites to all who are reading the posts.
  • Spend a few minutes on an Internet program from United Health Care that keeps my mind active.
  • Post inspiring words from the Dalai Lama, Eckhart Tolle, and Thich Nhat Hanh on Facebook.
  • Read my e-mail.
  • Fill the bird feeders on my patio, and rinse and refill the outside water dish for my cats.
  • Spend a few minutes doing stretching and other exercises.

It doesn’t take long to develop a daily ritual, and it can be changed as needed. It is meant to be supportive of who we are, on all levels.

Little Things Matter

“It has long been an axiom of mine that the little things are infinitely the most important.” ~ Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

It is always the little things – sometimes they bring us down, sometimes they build us up. This is one reason to stay focused on the present – so that we are aware of the little things,and they don’t “sneak up on us”.

I am enjoying my finished patio. It took some time to get it done (I had my landscapers do it!), but it is now a serene area where I can watch the birds at the feeders, and spend some quality down time.

I have a book that I am reviewing that I absolutely love, and that I will be able to use as a resource for many years to come. I know that this book will help many people, and I am pleased to see that it crossed my path.

I did a little bit of research, and found a company that makes cleaning products that are eco friendly. I didn’t think that I would have to be doing that search so soon, but the wellness company just did not work out for me. I will have cleaning products that are environmentally safe, just not where I thought they would be coming from.

I am still working to balance my diet so that my stomach stays stable. (I am dealing with IBS). I had a few bad days, and now things are better. I can take my morning suppliments and not have an upset stomach.

Each of these things are little things, but they all add up to quality of life. I am enjoying life, and I hope that you are too!

(c) June 2019 Bonnie Cehovet

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Ultimate Decisions

“you must be careful never to allow doubt to paralyze you. always take the decisions you need to take, even if you’re not sure you’re doing the right thing. You’ll never go wrong if, when you make a decision, you keep in mind an old German proverb: ‘The devil is in the detail.’ Remember that proverb and you’ll always be able to turn a wrong decision into a right one.” 
~ Paulo Coelho

If you follow this blog, you know that I recently made the decision to join a wellness company. I researched the company, I joined, I ordered their products, and I liked their products. I placed an order the second month (orders need to be placed each month), and I received the order. I liked the order.

Then I researched how to leave the company. There were things that just did not sit right with me. I think that my lesson here was that this had not worked for me with other companies in the past, and it wasn’t working for me now. It wasn’t the company per se, it was that the whole format, the whole process, was not something that I was comfortable with.

I am proud that I made the decision to join, and I am proud that I made the decision to leave. Where we get in trouble is when we fail to make the initial decision. Then we are stagnant in life. If our decisions turn out not to be the best for us, when can make another decision and take our lives in another direction.

Life is good!

Working With Animal Guides

The raven animal totem is sometimes called the “Keeper of Secrets” and like all birds is a messenger between the heavens and the earth. The raven encourages us to dive deeper and to look within to seek the answers to put in motion the much-needed change. Often times these messages may be difficult, but soaring over hurdles and obstacles is how we grow most. ~ from

It is quite interesting how Raven came into my life as a guide – he came in under the protection and shadow of Hawk. He came in at a time when I knew that I needed to make some personal changes, and that it was the time to do so. I am a writer, so the ability to move in space and time is important. Especially with my current WIP (Work In Progress) – a mystery that has its foundation in the past – about forty years in the past. To move seamlessly back and forth will be necessary to present this book in a viable manner.

That is just one part of my life in which Raven will be guiding me. In order to facilitate the change that I am coming into, I need to delve deeply into myself for answers. I need to reinvent myself, as it were. To leave behind parts of me that are no longer serving me well, and replacing them with energy that does serve me. Raven is part of me on this journey – he is not walking beside me, I feel that he has integrated himself within me. He brings with him the energy of the magician, the shapeshifter, helping me to connect with my ancestors, and helping me to set new goals, and accomplish them.

I am very thankful that both Hawk and Raven are lending their protection and energy to this part of my journey.