We all face fear in our lives – it is how we handle it that determines if it rules us or not. I recently had the book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”, by Susan Jeffers, come to my attention. This is not meant to be a book review, it is meant to be the first part of a multi-part discussion of fear in our lives. The book was originally published in 1987 by Century. The book that I have is a revised and updated edition published in 2012 by Vermillion, an imprint of Ebury Publishing (a Random House Group company).
The whole point of this book is that fear does not need to hold us back from living a rich and beautiful life. It is a book that offers tools for dealing with whatever fears we have. In her introduction Jeffers talks about the types of fears we experience, including the fear of letting go of things that are not working for us. She makes a very important statement in that she does not see fear as a psychological issue, but as an educational issue. When we educate ourselves, we allow ourselves to face our fears, and work through them. Fear does ot have to be an obstacle in our lives.
Jeffers begins by asking the reader what they are afraid of, and why. Amongst other fears I think that there are two that are universal – fear of failure, and fear of success. Jeffers breaks fears down into three levels:
- Level 1 – Those that “happen”, such as aging, and those that require action, such as making decisions.
- Level 2 – Success, failure, rejection, helplessness, loss of image.
- Level 3 – I can’t handle it!
Now that we have somewhat of an idea what fears are, Part 2 will be taking a look at why we can’t make fear go away. You might want to sit down and make a list of your fears, as the first step in dealing with them.
(c) June 2021 Bonnie Cehovet
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