Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day (also known as the Feast of Saint Valentine) is a day in which we celebrate love. Originating as a Catholic feast day honoring one or two Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine, it has evolved into a celebration of love and romance world-wide. It is interesting to note that this feast day was established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD, but the idea of romantic love evolved from the concept of courtly love. In 18th century England the tradition of sending greeting cards, flowers, and confectionary evolved.

Today we look at Valentine’s Day as a time to send or recieve flowers, chocolates, and possibly a small gift, along with going out for a nice dinner to celebrate. Due to COVID 19, it is more than likely that a dinner at a nice restaurant is not possible, nor is there much in the way of entertainment to go to afterwards. If it is possible, we celebrate within our homes, to the extent that we can. We have to social distance, and have to be careful of any at-risk individuals that live in our home.

Something that we don’t think about are those who have lost a partner and are celebrating alone. Or those that simply do not have a partner, and do not feel that there is anything to celebrate. This can be a very difficult time for this group of people and can lead to depression. Do not be afraid to reach out for help! SAMHSA has a national referral helpline that is open 24/7, 365 days a year, and provides local referrals for mental and substance abuse disorders. Their number is 1-800-487-4889. Helpline Center has a 24/7, 365 days a year helpline through the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Their number is 1-800-273-8255.

There is another thing that we can do, and that is to nurture ourselves. We can choose to gift ourselves with flowers, chocolate, and a nice dinner out. Or we can do whatever makes us feel love – a walk in the park, a walk on the beach, getting our hair or nails done (or both!), watching a favorite movie, or cooking our favorite dinner. We celebrate ourselves in anyway that feels supporting and nurturing.

Valentine’s Day has many sides to it – we need to honor them all.

Wishing everyone a Happy Valentine’s Day!

(c) February 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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The Seven Spiritual Laws Of Success

Things are starting to lighten up a bit in our world, so I wanted to share a book that I have had by my side for years. It is “The Seven Spiritual Laws Of Success”, by Deepak Chopra (Amber-Allen Publishing, Inc. 2007). We allwant to be successful, and I believe that we allare, to some extent. I also believe that by following the principles in this book we can develop our best self, and manifest success on all levels.

The Seven Spiritual Laws Of Success are:

  • The Law of Pure Potentiality
  • The Law of Giving and Recieving
  • The Law of Karma or Cause and Effect.
  • The Law of Least Effort
  • The Law of Intention anf Desire
  • The Law of Detachment
  • The Law of Dharma or Purpose In Life

Each chapter is written in a manner that is easy to understand, and suggests ways in which you can incorporate the wisdom of each law into your daily life. You can read the book straight through, or you can go to the chapter that will be most helpful to you at any given moment. I used to keep this book on my bedside, now I keep it by my desk, because that is where I spend most of my time. I also journal my thoughts after reading a chapter, but that is not necessary for everyone to do.

The book is short (96 pages), and it is very easy to read just one chapter a day. You can read it in the morning and take the wisdom into your day, or you can read it at night, and take the wisdom into dreamtime. There are many ways that you can make use of this material, and they will all benefit you greatly. Happy reading!

(C) February 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Healing Together

On this day, 1/20/21, Joseph R. Biden and Kamala D. Harris take the oath of office for President and Vice President of the United States, respectively. It has been a surreal and difficult four years for our country. We now have a President that vows to govern for the people – all of the people. This is what we needed to hear.

Whether we voted for the Biden/Harris ticket or not, these are the two individuals that will guide our country for the next four years. We need to put aside our differences and look at how we can move forward and make our country the very best country that it can be.

We start by making the effort to heal ourselves, while at the same time reaching out to heal the great divide that has happened in our country. These are just a few steps that we can take to start the process (and it is a process, not an overnight miracle):

  • Accept that the current state of affairs is what it is.
  • Forgive ourselves for disagreeing with others, and forgive them for disagreeing with us.
  • Stand behind our leaders – give them our support when we feel that we can support them, and speak up directly to them when we feel that issues are not being addressed appropriately.
  • Understand that masking, social distancing, and washing our hands are part of the process that we have to go through to get back any semblance of normalcy.
  • Understand that the new administration needs to be given time to get the COVID-19 vaccines out there and in place and that there needs to be government help in making those vaccines available to the population as a whole.
  • Reach out and help your neighbors and your community, in whatever way that you can.
  • Recognize that mental health at this time is an issue. Try not to judge people too quickly, or too harshly.
  • Begin your day by writing out a list of five things that you are thankful for. In the worst of times, we can be thankful for something.

This is a new begining for all of us – I wish you all well!

For information on COVID-19:

Mental Health Hotline (English and Spanish): 1-800-662-4357

Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

(c) January 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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We Heal Together

Today is January 12th, 2021. On January 6th, 2021 there was a “homegrown” terrorist attack on the Senate as electoral votes were being counted prior to verifying Joe Biden as our next president. The attack was provoked by false information from many different sources and was encouraged by the sitting president, who held a rally just before the attack and urged his supporters to go down to the Senate and cause problems.

Due to a deliberate lack of backup, Capitol police were unable to hold the crowd back. Approval for the deployment of the National Guard, which had been requested by DC Mayor Muriel Bowser was problematic ( Virginia Governer Ralph Northam send Virginia National Guard members, as well as 200 members of the Virginia State Police (

This was a vicious, ugly terrorist attack. Speaker Nancy Pelosi had to be removed to another location, her office was trashed, and her computer allegedly stolen ( Doors and windows were broken, trash was everywhere, feces smeared on walls and floors – the list goes on (

Five people died because of this terrorist attack. This is not over. Partially in response to the attack, several social media sites are blocking/deleting accounts that were promoting misinformation and worse

What can we do to protect ourselves, and to usher in a safe inaugural day? Increased safety measures are being set up for the inaugural (, What we can personally do is pray – pray every single day until the inauguration. Pray for the safety of all of us, pray for the safety of our government leaders, pray that the new administration will walk their talk. Pray that those who are behind these atrocities are held to account.

January, 2020 Bonnie Cehovet

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Welcome To 2021!

Welcome to 2021! My first suggestion – make peace with 2020, which was a difficult year for all of us. Consciously leave behind anything that is not serving you well. Wish all negativity well, and then send it down into the earth, where it will be transformed into something new and positive.

Decide what you want to bring with you from 2020 into the new year. These could be things that are already being supportive of you, or they could be seeds that you have planted that are getting ready to sprout. Send them love, and make them a conscious part of your life.

Make a conscious decision to be supportive of yourself – set aside time on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis to take care of yourself. This can take many forms – eating healthy foods, exercising, meditation, soaking in a bath, setting aside time for recreational reading – the list is endless! Know that when you are the best person that you can be, that you can support those around you to be the best that they can be.

Define you personal, financial, and professional goals for the next thirty, sixty, and ninetly days. Look ahead at where you want to be in three months, six months, nine months and a year. Write down what you need to do to accomplish your goals. If broken downinto small steps, you goals will be easier to achieve.

Numerologically 2021 is a number five year. The is the universal energy of the year for all of us. The foundation of a number five year is that of change. Here is the U.S. we are looking at political change, economic change, jobs opening up, and more. Healthwise, the COVID-19 vaccine will become available to all of us (it is already out for frontline workers and the elderly), and we will see our communities returning to a new version of normal. Businesses will open up again, and life will have a better flow to it.

Look for the opportunities aorund you in 2021, and be willing to be a bit flexible. Develope focus and discipline, so that you are not moving from opportunity to opportunity without fully developing any of them. Take the lessons from 2020 and incorporate them into your life.

Blessings to you all!

January 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Zen Moment

I start my day by reciting something called the Cleansing Prayer. For me, it is a Zen moment. It grounds me, and gives me balance. I share it here, in the hope that it will be helpful to others. Feel free to change the final line (Blessed Be, So Mote It Be) to whatever feels comfortable to you.

Cleansing Prayer

I am now choosin to cleanse

myself and release any

and all thought forms,

beings, situations and energies that

are nolonger of service

to my highest and greatgest good …

across all planes of

my existence, across all

unicerses, and across all lifetimes.

I ask that all energies that

are less than love

be transmuted for the highest good of all.

Blessed Be, So Mote It Be

(c) December 2020 Bonnie Cehovet

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Celebrating Thanksgiving 2020

On Thursday, November 26th, we will be celebrating Thanksgiving here in the U.S. As is happening globally (due to the pandemic) this year’s celebration will have a flavor all of its own. We will start by looking at some of the guidelines that have been posted by federal agencies:

From Dr. Anthony Fauci, head of the NIH (National Institute of Health): (This is a very well written article. You will need to scroll down to see a short video from Dr. Fauci.)

From the CDC (Center For Disease Control):

Thanksgiving is literally a time for giving thanks. It is a time for family gatherings, serving traditional meals, and for perhaps watching a movie or a sports game or two. Due to the pandemic, our celebrations this year will be a bit different. Travel is not being encouraged, holiday gatherings are being limited, and if we do have a holiday gathering, we are being encouraged to have it outside.

How can we create our own celebration this year, one that will be a lasting positive memory for us? We can be thankful for what we have – for our health, for our family, for our jobs, for the country that we live in. We can be thankful that we have the ability to not only talk to family and friends that are at a distance, but we can interact with them visually through FaceTime and sites like Zoom. We can be thankful for our homes, and our communities.

However you decide to celebrate Thanksgiving, check NIH, CDC, and local guidelines to make sure that you are doing your best to stay safe. Wear masks, and wash your hands frequently. You can still serve a Thanksgiving dinner, with some adjustments. Only one person in the kitchen at a time, and only one person serving. Each person gets their chosen beverage and fills their plate one person at a time. Make sure there is good air flow in the house. You can still watch movies and sports shows – just remember correct social distancing.

Above all, choose to be happy! And yes, The Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade is still happening! Without the crowds, of course, but it is still happening!

Wishing you all a very Happy Thanksgiving!

(c) November Bonnie Cehovet

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Take Responsibility

We are responsible for our words, and our actions. We are also responsible for our reactions. The year 2020 has been the most difficult one in my memory. Not necessarily for me, but globally. The global world as we know it as been turned on its head. To experience a pandemic is one thing, to not have the resources to handle it is another. On one level there is a lack of hospital space, of protective gear for hospital personnel and first responders, deaths of a magnitude we have never seen before, not being able to gather for funerals (or weddings, or birthdays, or for extended family meals), not being able to visit family/friends in care facilities.

On another level there are closed businesses, inability to get personal services (such as haircuts, manicure/pedicures), and the gut-wrenching vision of what seemed like miles of empty shelves at the grocery stores.

To a great extent, we have coped. Masks fairly quickly became available, many companies devoted at least one of their production lines to making hand sanitizer, distancing rules were put in place, curb service was offered by many businesses (including restaurants), service personnell (such as plumbers, electricians, and yard maintenance people) were masked and gloved.

In the U.S., we have done well at the local, grassroots level, but not so well at the national level. (Listen to Dr. Fauci, for heaven’s sake!) There is a huge divisivness that is both political and personal. There are more weapons out there, and more violence, than we have ever seen before (and yes, I am of the Viet Nam era).

We have a national election coming up in two days (November 3rd, 2020). We have an incumbent that is at the root of many of our problems, encouraging violence. We have the fear that he will not leave office peaceably if he is not re-elected. How do we cope with this?

My first thought for myself is that I am not watching TV on election day. All that will happen is that my blood pressure will skyrocket, and I will drive myself crazy. This does not mean that I am putting my head in the sand. It means that I am taking protective measures.

I believe in prayer. I will be praying that this election brings us a president that will unite us so that we can take our proper place in the global world. That attention to COVID-19 is fast-tracked in the U.S., and that our government undergoes a fairly complete overhaul.

On election day we need to exercise both mental and emotional self-care. Some things that we can do:

  • Limit access to news media. Follow the media sources that you feel are legitimate. Create a specific time period to do this, rather than jumping in randomly during the day/night.
  • Practice some form of deep breathing exercise – this keeps you grounded and centered, helps keep your blood pressure in an acceptable range, and allows you to handle conversations with friends/family that may disagree with your views.
  • Set limits on your social media time. I work from home, so I have access all the time. I have to remind myself to “leave social media” alone, especially if something has really upset me.
  • Remember to be thankful for what is good in your life. I do a list of a minimum of five things each morning that I am thankful for. This will be especially necessary on election day.
  • Be okay with your own reactions to things. Recognize your feelings, then release them.
  • Schedule some alone time in the days after the election to vent and process. We are moving into a new normal – the old one had come to a point where it was not functioning well.
  • Stay engaged in your work, your life, your activities. Live a balanced life.

May this election help us to see the light at the end of the tunnell. In fact, may we get a clearer perception of the tunnell itself!

(c) November 2020 Bonnie Cehovet

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Setting A Foundation For The Life We Want

It is very important that we realize that as individuals we need to take responsibility for the foundation of our life. We need to look for the tools that will help us grow as individuals, as partners within our local community, and as partners within our global community.

Some of the things to take into consideration in building a solid personal foundation for life are:

  • Starting out the day with a short meditation, and a list of what we are thankful for.
  • Creating daily, weekly, and monthly goals.
  • Keeping a daily journal.
  • Following a healthy diet that spports who you are. (For me, that is a vegetarian diet.)
  • Getting exercise in some form on a daily basis.
  • Grtting enough sleep.
  • Learning to prioritize.

In today’s blog I am going to be referencing a course that I am taking – “Say Yes To Success”, by Debra Poneman. ( This is not a promotion for this course, even though it is working well for me. It is simply an example of what is out there, and why it works for me.

I took a series of free sessions that Debra Poneman was offering, which were so good that I jumped at the chance to take her ten-week course. The sessions are presented over Zoom, so I could do them from home. They are of a reasonable length – 90 minutes – and she has downloads that she sends out the day before each session. She covers a multitude of life areas over the course of the ten weeks, including:

  • What Is Success – Living In The Light Of Grace
  • Harnessing The Infinite Power Of Your Mind
  • The Role of Goals And The Power Of Gratitude
  • When To Hold On And When To let Go: Learning To Tap Into And Trust Your Intuition
  • Creating Flow With Your Time And In Your Environment
  • The Magic Of Healing Your Heart
  • Opening The Floodgates Of Abundance
  • Creating Vibrant Health And Reversing The Aging Process
  • YOU Have The Power To Change The World
  • Living True Spirituality For Your Ultimate Life (And GRADUATION CELEBRATION)

Poneman has a Facebook page dedicated to this course, where people are encouraged to share their thoughts and experiencesd as we work our way though the sessions. For me, it is a blessing to read about other peoples experiences, to know that I am not alone, and to be able to add my little bit of wisdom to other people’s posts. It takes a village, and this is our village!

This is what is working for me. There are a lot of tools of empowerment out there, within our communities, and on the Internet. Many of them are free. Find what works for you, and put some effort into it. As you move forward with whatever tool you choose to work with, you will feel lighter, more positive, and better able to manifest your visions!

July 2020 Bonnie Cehovet

Maintaining Wellness In Difficult Times

The best of the times right now are difficult for all of us. Services that we are accustomed to setting appointments for as a matter of course (like hair and nails) are just opening up. Restaurants and other public facilities are just also opening up, and will have severe limitations as to occupancy and social distancing (space between people).

We cannot go anywhere without masks. We understand that we need to do this, but it is often not comfortable. Wearing a mask is not that easy for me – they are hard to breath through. But I wear them, and will continue to do so until they are no longer mandated.

Service people coming into our homes are wearing masks. Going into stores of all types I need to wear a mask, and those working in the store need to wear a mask. We need to wash our hands constantly, and deep clean our homes on a consistent basis. We need to keep hand sanitizer handy. A certain level of these precautions will be a permanent part of our future.

How do we maintain a healthy level of physical/spiritual/mental/emotional wellness in these times? I have worked with the art of feng shui for many years now. One of the books that I have found to be a valuable tool is “Feng Shui For Healing”, by Rodika Tchi. Her work crossed my path on Twitter, for which I have always been grateful.

“Feng Shui For Healing” is a step-by-step guide for improving wellness within our own homes, our “sanctuaries”. In her introduction, Tchi focuses on creating a peaceful, supportive environment within our homes. IMHO, this is a much better idea than worrying about the changes that have already come, or the changes that are coming.

One of the tools that Tchi gifts us with is a form of meditative breathing called 4-square breathing: breath in to the count of four, hold for the count of four, and exhale to the count of four. She recommends doing this complete cycle six to ten times, while repeating the affirmation ” I can create a nourishing home wherever I go.”. You can actually use any affirmation that you want to with this breath – I change it to suit my needs at any given time.

Feng shui helps us to unlock the energy in our home, in our lives, and in our physical being. Put the principles of feng shui into your life – don’t just read about them. Almost a year ago I “got the clue” that I needed to move my desk, which faced the window, to the center of the room, facing the door. (Having a door at your back is very poor feng shui.) Immediately I moved away from the energy of my neighbors, whose front door faces mine. They are good people, but the energy was chaotic at times. My desk had been facing their front door.

Now my desk faces my living room, where I can see what my cats are up to, and I can see out into my patio. My gentler, pleasant energy. What a world of difference that one small move made!

Our home environment reflects our personal energy. Perhaps this would be a good time for you to use the principles of feng shui to create a background of peace and joy in your home.

Make the best of these times!

(c) June 2020 Bonnie Cehovet

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