Where Do We Find The Tools For Our Journey?

Wellness is a journey – a personal journey, an ever evolving journey. We can make use of many things as tools for making this our best possible journey. I recently had an incredible book cross my path: “EMMA – Her Adventures In New York City”, by Debi Allen. Emma is a beautiful dog who lives in New York City with her parents. The focus for Ms. Allen in this book was that of showing children how they can live their best life. She did a marvelous job by having Emma share a day in her life in New York City, with all of its excitement and opportunities.

This is not meant to be a review – if you would like to see my review of this book, you can click here: https://bonniecehovet.wordpress.com/2021/09/25/review-emma-her-adventures-in-new-york-city/. What I would like to do here is to address the myriad ways in which this book can be put to use, to make a very real difference in the lives of children and adults.

The presentation in this book is what I would term ‘gentle”. The basic light blue/green color from the cover is carried out as a background color throughout the book. It has a calming effect on the reader, and makes one feel safe. The other colors used are also pastels, with minimal imagery and good use of space. Even though Emma’s adventures take place in New York City, she always has plenty of room surrounding her.

Emma visits places in New York City that everyone has heard of. She chats with her canine friends on street corners,has lunch with them, goes shopping with them, and has a wonderful time. At the end of her very busy day she goes home to her brownstone, has dinner, and goes to bed. She is a happy puppy!

Ms. Allen writes in a manner that allows Emma to be used as a portal, or gateway for conversation with children. (I would like to add here that I feel this book could also be used with adults that have developemental issues, and function on the level of a child.) Some of the ways that I feel this book would function well are:

  • In a pediatric hospital ward.
  • In a pediatricians office.
  • In a dental office catering to children.
  • As a tool for a pediatric therapist/counselor.
  • As a tool for police/social workers who find themselves dealing with children in crisis.
  • As a tool for parents to keep children occupied on long trips.
  • In grade school libraries.
  • For use by teachers as a way to get children to read.
  • For use by school counselors as a gateway to encouraging children to talk about what is bothering them.
  • As a gift to a child, grandchild, greatgrandchild, niece, nephew, neighbor child, co-workers child – the list is endless!
  • As a small holiday gift or stocking stuffer.

A tool is what you make of it … the uses for this amazing book are limited only by your imagination! And … there is a rumor that there will be a sequil!

If you would like to purchase a signed copy of this book you can e-mail Ms. Allen at books@debiallen.com.

(c) September 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 11

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 11, we are looking at what Jeffers refers to as the “inner void”. That feeling that we have at times of being empty or lonely – that is an indication that we are off course, that we are not connecting with our Higher Self. Once we connect with our Higher Self we allow the good feelings to flow again. Our Higher Self is a source of positive thoughts and positive energy.

What Jeffers refers to as the “Chatterbox” is that voice within us that is a source of negative thoughts and negative energy. Our conscious mind decides whether we want to listen to our Higher Self or to our Chatterbox. This is the information that then goes to our subsoncsious mind. Which source we listen to is our choice. This is where positive thoughts and affirmations come in.

This is the final installment for this discussion. My wish is that whoever reads it takes something away that will help them align with their higher self, and live the life that they envision.

If you are interested in purchasing Jeffers book you can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Feel-Fear-Anyway-Indecision-Confidence/dp/B011T7KWO6/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2Z48ZU08PVJNL&dchild=1&keywords=feel+the+fear+and+do+it+anyway+susan+jeffers&qid=1631869706&sr=8-2

(c) September 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 10

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear Part 10 we are looking at learning to give consciously and freely. We will find that when we give from a place of love,rather than a place of expectation, that wonderful things come back to us. When we hold on to expectations, and they are not met, we experience fear and disappointment.

One of the exercises that Jeffers gives in this chapter is that of listing the things that we are thankful for about the people in our lives, and then thanking them for that. This is something that can be very hard to do, but is very freeing. Jeffers suggests that if you cannot meet in person withthe people that you want to thank,that you simply thank themin your mind.

For me,the basis of this chapter was to be the person that you wanted to attract into your life. That our life is abundant, and that we count.

(c) September 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 9

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 9 we will be looking at dimenishing our fear by simply saying yes to universe/spirit. Acknowledge your current circumstances and move on from there. It is that flow in our lives that we have no control over. We let go of resisting the circumstances and allow our life to flow. Our plan and spirits plan may be two different things. Don’t resist. When we allow the flow new possibilities come in.

Know that we have to be open to experiencing the pain that life can hand us. By acknowledging the pain, and working through it, we heal ourselves on all levels. Jeffers states that we need to be aware when we are saying no to life, and to consciously change that response to a yes. She also suggests consciously letting go of the tension in our body, and to look for the value from all of our experiences.

Here’s to a life well lived!

(c) August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 8

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 8 we will be looking at what Jeffers terms a “whole life”. When we experience a whole life, we include the many facets that make us who we are, and release focusing on any on person or life area. For instance, a whole life may include work, friends, family, relationships, hobbies, personal growth, alone time, leisure, and community involvement of some form (such as volunteering). This gives us balance, and allows us to grow as individuals.

Living a whole life allows us to follow our passions, and gives us something to hold on to when we are experiencing difficulties with one or more life areas. In essence, we are committing to each aera of our life, and not to just one area. When we focus on each aea in turn, we give it 100%.

What does your whole life map include?

(c) September 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 7

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 7 we will be looking at making winning decisions. The first step towards making a winning decision is to change how we look at decision making. How Jeffers describes what she terms a “No Lose” model is to look at each of the options as options that take us to different paths, but that all paths are the right path. Each path gives us opportunities to learnand grow. When we do this we are coming from a position of power.

Jeffers suggests doing the following before making a decision:

  • Focus on the “no lose” model, and affirm to yourself that you cannot lose, no matter what decision you make.
  • Do your homework – research each of your options, and learn as much about them as you can.
  • Establish your priorities. How will your choice affect your life?
  • Trust your gut feeling.
  • Put a little humor into the decision making. Choose not to be so very serious.

Jeffers suggests doing the following after making a decision:

  • Let go of your expectations.
  • Accept responsibility for your decision.
  • Do not be afraid to change what doesn’t work.

Wishing you all goo decision making!

(c) August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 6

The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 6 we are looking at situations where people around us are not supporting our growth. They are not comfortable seeing us change, becuase they will have to grow with us, to learn to interact with us in different ways. This can happen with anyone – family, friends, co-workers. Some people in your life perhaps have never supported you – these are people that you can distance yourself from, or completely let go. For the people that have generally been supporitve of you, give them a chance to grow with you.

You will also be attracting new people to you, as you raise your own energy and clear your life of negativity. Surround yourself with people that are supportive of you, and that you feel comfortable being supportive of. Look for people that are on your same path, but that may be a bit ahead of you. They will have something to teach you.

Where are you on your journey?

(c) August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 5

In Own Your Fear – Part 4 we looked at taking responsibility for our own lives. The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 5 we are looking at working with positive thoughts and positive energy to overcome our fears. There are many things that we can do, such as working with audiotapes and CD’s, apps for our phones, reading positive books that inspire and motivate us, placing positive quotes where we can see them (Google is a great place to find all kinds of positive quotes!), and working with positive affirmations.

The key is to work with material that appeals to you, and to work with it on a consistent (daily) basis. You don’t have to spend a lot of time with this, but setting aside even ten or fifteen minutes a day (at the same time each day, if possible) will help you to see results quickly.

August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 4


In Own Your Fear – Part 3 we looked at how we move past the pain of fear into feeling the power of dealing with our fears. The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears.

In Own Your Fear – Part 4 we will look at taking responsibility for our own lives. We cannot change other people, but we can change ourselves. We are only the victim if we assign this role to ourselves. Victims have no power in their own lives. We all have choices, and we can choose not to be a victim. As we choose to not blame others, we need to choose not to blame ourselves. On another note, we need to learn how to handle our internal voice, that voice inour head that always, always has something to say!

Does being a victim have an upside? Well, in a way. We create a little safe place in life that we choose not to venture out of. However, when we take responsibility for our life we open ourselves up to looking at what we want in life, and what we need to do to get it. When we open ourselves up like this we begin to see that in any given situation we have a multitude of choices. If one choice doesn’t work well for us, we can reconsider and make another choice. Nothing is written in stone.

At the end of each chapter Jeffers has included exercises that allow the reader to put the information in that chapter to work in their life. There are ways for us to take control and become whatever we want to be!

(c) August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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Own Your Fear – Part 3


In Own Your Fear – Part 2 we looked at why our fears won’t go away. The foundation for this discussion is Susan Jeffers’ book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Jeffers suggests that as long as we continue to grow as individuals, we will be dealing with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success … and many other fears. In Part 3 we are looking at how we move past the pain of fear to feeling the power of dealing with our fears.

The problem is not necessarily our fear (or what we fear) but our reaction to the fear (how we handle the fear). It is not always easy to recognize our fear, face it, and work through it. Sometimes we are absolutely paralyzed by fear, like a deer in headlights – unable to move, to make a choice, or take an action. We have to move through that feeling of helplessness and depression, and make the choice to honor our power. The power is always there – it is just that there are times when we do not acknowledge it.

Jeffers suggests two affirmations that can be used morning and night to help us stay centered in our power:

  • I am powerful and I am loved.
  • I am powerful and I am loving.

In moving from pain to power we: (1) take responsibility, (2) see problems as opportuities, (3) know that we can handle whatever we are going through, and (4) see this as a learning experience.

(c) August 2021 Bonnie Cehovet

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